Birdie Transformation Program
Week 17, December 21, 2018
Home for the holidays
This one is for holiday times with the family.
If you are happy, feeling welcome and get along fine with your family, you have a week off.
You might just want to pay attention to how the kind and amount of food ingested during family Holidays affects your mood and general well being?
For others: if “stuff” just seems to happen anytime you spend more than a couple of hours with family, maybe it is time to think about how to more intentionally create your time with them.
For example. If you fly in and get picked up at the airport, maybe, rather than being stuck at the house for a week or 2, you need to rent a car to not feel trapped.
Even as adults, when we are around parents and family, inexplicably we seem to revert to a much earlier state of development, acting like, well, not like our otherwise usual selves. Especially when our beings remember past hurts, when old patterns are triggered, and when in present time our development and change or life direction goes completely ignored by family, things can get difficult.
This is a prime time for observation of your habits, triggers, attitudes and practice setting boundaries. if needed.
How can you stand your ground without it becoming a big confrontation? Can you say “No” to something you don’t want to do? How much do you feel like a little child again? Do you just go along with the plan just to keep the peace?
Here is something you can do when going home to your parents house, if you are lucky enough and your parents are still alive.
Think about something, a trait or something they used to do for you when you were growing up that was important to you then….and thank them for it. It can be a little thing like: You know dad, In the summer, we always got a little Italian ice cream cone on Sundays after church. I loved that so much. I know we didn’t have much money, but we all loved it it is such a great memory.
Just a little thing like that, and express gratitude to them.
Going a little further, and if you feel a little love, affection, or tenderness for them – speak it, find a safe way to express it, even if that is an unfamiliar thing for you to do.
Have a great and blessed time