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The compassionate Buddha is better than the fuckhead Buddha

So there you have it.

The compassionate Buddha is better than the fuckhead Buddha ~ E.J. Gold, quote, morning show, July 25, 2019.

He went on to say something like: in the fuckhead Buddha, it just cancels out, no real good is one.

I’ll explain what it means to me, or how I interpret this, but not having a conversation about what it means to be better and if such a judgment is justified.

Imagine or say there are two people, humans,  who have had the same level of awakening, realization of the Absolute reality with the same degree of embodied “drench”. Never mind how, by what means, this occurred and how they each “got “ there. They each had their path. Never mind too that there is that level where it all really is just as it is and it is okay….and that place where it is all a dream.

So here we have the two Buddhas in human incarnation, and one is compassionate and the other is a fuckhead. (and no, you all know what that means, and I am not having a discussion about how to define compassion or fuckhead either)

To me the fundamental difference is: one has grown up and the other has not.

It means one is mature and the other is immature.

It means one cares and one does not give a shit, stuck in the me me me phase.

Why do I say that?

Because, when you have done the work on self, when you have traversed the terrain of dark night of the soul, when you have learned to tolerate feeling everything, when you have learned to regulate your nervous system, when you have examined yourself and your patterns, beliefs and origins and why you really act the way you do at any given time, when you have faced your dark side, when you have developed self compassion on your way to growing up out of automatic emotional reactivity, when you actually have done the work of growing up and developed an ability to deeply care about everything because your heart is open…you will not go on hurting others, you will rather know to do right action and words in the moment, do what is actually helpful, relieve suffering, be in service of the whole. You will have developed compassion, you will be compassionate

(note: some may have an easier way to get to that point than others, karma is….)

You also, having freed yourself – through self observation, self-study, therapy or what not – from the narrow confines of familial, energetic and cultural conditioning, when you have worked with your nervous system enough to actually no longer have to fall into automatic survival responses of any kind, you have then a degree of freedom and presence – that you simply don’t have not having gone through the process of – growing up.

So, back to our two Buddhas drenched to the same degree with “wokeness”. The mature Buddha, the compassionate one, can actually consistently act in a manner congruent with his or her realization and highest knowing. That one is truly capable of being present. There is actually have a higher degree of freedom to do and be.

He or she can actually become a force, an agent for evolution and speak truth without traumatizing anyone in any kind of even subtle way, be a true Bodhisattva, and that is better than being a fuckhead. That is my take on it.

The fuckhead Buddha, if he/she so chooses, can be a BIT, a Bodhisattva in Training. A fuckhead Buddha may have done the work of awakening, but not the work of growing up and as a result, keeps hurting  others.

At the same time, for anyone in the process of maturation: be kind, patient and compassionate with yourself.

It is okay to be a work in progress.

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Caring and the mother code

What if you don’t care about something, some”thing” like animals?

After all, in a way there are just like a backdrop for us humans to use or enjoy, right? They don’t really have sentience, or emotions, right? No inherent right for beingness, so human abusing them by the billions does not really matter?

During one of the courses I attended, the presenter mentioned one of the things they didn’t care about. I found myself not angry, but rather surprised and a bit disappointed, but I respected them and their work so much, and it is so good for so many and the planet, that I just filed it away. But it did actually hurt inside hearing it. I have also, for myself, come to understand the truth of a quote attributed to Anatole France “Until one has loved an animal a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.”

It is true, no one should tell anyone else what they are supposed to care about. For me too, caring about something does not mean I have to give to give my life and energy and resources to it. For me, there are

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How being in second life helped me grow up and heal

A few years ago, the Institute for the Development of the Harmonious Human Being (IDHHB) started an exploration into using Second Life (SL) as a work tool, a tool for transformation and service as well as a tool to stimulate past life memories and broaden one’s consciousness footprint. It was an ever changing environment then, with lots of activities and changing sceneries and lots to learn. This blog post is more focused on my own journey than all that was happening back then in the Ashram (that would be filling a book).

Even though I felt a little bit like I felt when the call went out to join safaris in D2 a decade earlier, meaning some trepidation and a hint of disdain, if I were honest, I didn’t really know anything about Second Life or the people that go there.

I decided to participate and of course, as with the exploration of any new area, there were growing pains. At that time, child avatars were still permitted, and I found myself drawn to those more than the adults or non-human characters. I had a few adult ones, but on a subtle level, noticed a resistance to using them. So unless it was required to show up as an adult, I started out exploring as a child. This was at a time I had not actually put a name to the nature nor the extent of the trauma that I have had to deal with all my life, as trauma is in the nervous system but I didn’t remember anything commonly recognized as trauma, so I was never aware that that was what I was dealing with.  However,

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Are-sociopaths-winning-on-the-planet

The other day I listened to a podcast and it clarified something for me, so I am sharing my understand of it. It is oversimplified, but nonetheless useful.

Are Sociopaths/psychopaths  winning on the planet?

Or: What we can and need to do to make the whole sustainable?

Okay, that is not the whole story, because the more correct would be: sociopaths are winning in the short term to get for themselves what they want, and are destroying the world as we know in the long term.

The situation is that humans with their tool making ability have changed the natural laws of evolution and are now capable to extinct themselves and everyone else with them. Tools break the symmetry of power in natural evolution. So what do we do?

In order for

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Why sociopaths are winning

Or: Why and what we can and need to do to make the whole sustainable?

Sociopaths/psychopaths are winning on the planet.

Okay, that is not the whole story, because the more correct would be: sociopaths are winning in the short term to get for themselves what they want, and are destroying the world as we know in the long term.

The situation is that humans with their tool making ability have changed the natural laws of evolution and are now capable to extinct themselves and everyone else with them. Tools break the symmetry of power in natural evolution.

In order for the whole (body-mind, humanity, ecosystems, earth), to be thriving and healthy, there needs to be a balance between will, mind and heart in the humans.

Will here is energy and action, discipline to DO something, drive.

Will can be developed if it is currently underpowered. Will can be trained so you may have more actual choice over your actions, rather than going into a default mode, acting out of habit.

Mind here is knowledge/science, understanding of how things work, strategies, experience, insights and learning.

This too can be developed if underpowered.

Heart here is caring for the whole, feeling ever more deeply for ever wider circles of beings, becoming more and more inclusive in your caring.

Deepening in caring can be developed.

Now let us look at what is happening when even one part is not developed or not coupled with the 2 others.

Strong in Will and Mind leads to selfish doing what is best in the short term for one’s self, without much regard or caring for anyone or anything else. It will get things done to further their economic goals (win in the short term), ultimately leading to the destruction of everything. (remember, the tools for total destruction are available.)

Strong in Mind and Heart, but no Will, is a soft-hearted , conscientious, caring, but ineffective scientist, unable to take action.

Strong in Heart and Will is the activist, however, without knowledge, without a good strategy, they will be ineffective and the military industrial complex and the corporations will win every time.

This is trying to put in words my take-away understanding of some of what I heard during a podcast with Arjuna Ardagh and Daniel Schmachtenberger.

The reason I love it was that all I ever was able to articulate was: the democrats need to grow some balls. As you can probably intuit, the entire system is more complex, but I still thought it clarifying to think about it in those three pillars.

It is time to consciously create and take responsibility for the health of the whole. For that all three of those pillars need to be developed and coupled.

Interestingly, this balance feels also equally necessary for the health and evolution of our personal bodymindspirt.

In the end, it has to be a win/win …any system where there is a win/loose, we are not gonna solve our situation.

I will end this with a quote by Daniel Schmachtenberger which he made during the podcast in relation to learning deeper caring, visiting a factory farm, after seeing how animals live on factory farms

“…fuck, is there a model of my life that feels like a success to me as long as these animals are in this condition….?”

You can find out more about Daniel Schmachtenberger here:  https://civilizationemerging.com/about/

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Life does not have to suck- song

If you follow my FB page or instagram (@the_unrulygardener), you won’t miss any topics. I will only post a few on the website. The 2 below are from my very first evening of recording with a flip camera. I use open-shot to make it instagram compatible to export.

Being weird

Improv song – life doesn’t have to suck